First Date Tips

We've all seen it before. Those dates that appear so inspiring and then suddenly you figure out that you're not going to get a second one. It's trouble enough even getting the first date to start with. You don't want all that effort wasted because you tried too hard or mentioned the wrong thing.


The problem is that it's so hard to calculate where you went wrong. Was it what you wore? Too much hair gel? Too many questions? There are many ways to screw up the first date. Believe me ... I'm guilty of making just about every first date mistake there is to make. Here are some lessons that I've learned from those mistakes.


Stay Cool


The best thing you can do to help your first date go well is to relax. Of course you're both nervous, but is she ? Of course not, and neither should you. It's totally natural to get excited about a first date, and to be nervous for sure. But if that's all that you show, you're not going to be giving her any way to get to know you.


Though Not Too Cool


You do want to appear to be interested in her. Staying cool doesn't mean you shouldn't seem to be interested in the conversation. Make eye contact and ask polite and appropriate questions. In short – act like a man because that's what she expects you to be.


Stay in the Present


One really easy way to run a girl away is by getting ahead of yourself and bringing up marriage or children. No good will ever come of talking about these things on the first date, so avoid them. On the other hand, you don't want to appear too caught up in the past either. A quick story from high school or college is fine here and there.


But if that's all you're finding to bring to the dialog, you'll be giving the clear idea that you're only interested in reliving those glory days. In short, you'll look like you never grew up and have no life, and it's not too hard to see why that's a gigantic turn off to her.


Take Her Someplace Quiet


You don't have to be too crazily romantic, but your first date should definitely be in a place where you can have a conversation. Stay away from noisy bars with tons of distractions. Nothing will make your first date turn awkward in a hurry like not being able to have a conversation with your date because of noise. It can be hard enough to keep the conversation moving along without having to overcome your environment too. 

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